Worrying: The Most Pointless Emotion

Will people be able to relate to this blog post? Am I just wasting my time? No one is gonna like it  anyways…Worrying is the most pointless emotion

Why are these some of the first thoughts that drift into my head as I put my fingers to my keyboard to write a blog post? It’s almost like my mind goes into panic mode before I even have a word typed out. Worrying is something I find myself working through everyday and let me tell you the struggle is real!

The brain is a fascinating organ. I also want to punch it sometimes. Even when things are going so smooth in my life and my situation is almost flawless, I always tend to find something wrong, before anything even goes wrong. Crazy isn’t it? I worry that my current situation is way too good to be true and something HAS to go wrong. Today I wanted to write a self-reflection post in hopes that it may actually wake me up!

I have come to a few conclusions over the past year about this emotion we call “worry.” Here are some worth noting:

  • The more you worry about bad things happening to you, the less likely you are to take risks that could turn into life-changing moments
  • When you are in a constant state of worry you are predicting the future. No one can truly predict the future. Nothing ever happens the way you imagined.
  • When you worry you are giving your power away to it and being proactive goes out the damn window
  • Worrying is terrible for your health and it distorts all reality

All these reasons why worrying is pointless really puts things into perspective. The more I read over them the more they all make perfect sense. There is no handbook of life that says as human beings we must worry. It should be the opposite. Worrying completely robs us of our daily life where joy should flow through our veins and spiritual growth should take place. The more worry floods your brain the more pain and suffering you will feel when you can feel happy.

So don’t worry everyone, be happy. Life is good :)

The Benefits of Nickel Free Jewelry

nickel-free-jewelryWhen I was a little girl, I enjoyed playing a game called Pretty Pretty Princess, a board game where you could instantly become a princess by playing dress-up with jewelry. Of course the pieces were made of plastic, but to a 5-year-old that plastic jewelry seemed luxurious. It was so fun and exciting to feel like a princess just by putting on a piece of jewelry.

As a jewelry lover, I am always on the lookout for the trendiest jewelry for an affordable price. I love all types of jewelry and love mixing and matching different pieces. Something that I have noticed with some of my jewelry though is that certain pieces will tarnish, leaving a weird green mark around my skin. Also, other pieces that I have that are made with nickel tend to make my sensitive skin itchy and red. I often wonder if I’m allergic to this type of jewelry, so I did some research.

Signs You May Have an Allergy to Nickel

Before making the switch to hypoallergenic jewelry, here are some signs that you may a real metal allergy:

  • skin discoloration
  • rashes or patchy red marks will appear on the skin under the jewelry
  • bleeding may occur
  • pierced hole in ear or nose swells and yellow colored liquid comes which is pus…ew.
  • constant itching and burning sensation around the area where skin comes in direct contact with the piece of jewelry being worn

Nickel intolerance is not something to take lightly because it can result in a more serious skin problem later on. If you think you are allergic to the jewelry made with nickel that you currently wear, it may be time to invest in some nickel-free, hypoallergenic pieces.

nickel-free-chloe-isabel-logoChloe + Isabel Has Your Back

An amazing brand of jewelry I recently discovered goes by the name Chloe + Isabel. Their pieces are nickel-free, lead safe and hypoallergenic. Each one of their unique pieces are hand-designed in their NYC studio and they offer a lifetime replacement and 30-day money back guarantee. I fell so in love with this brand and their jewelry I even became a merchandiser for them.

chloe-and-isabel-nickel-freeTheir jewelry has been featured in popular magazines such as InStyle, Vogue, and Lucky. From dainty pendants to bold statement pieces, the possibilities are endless and there is a little something for every type of fashionista.

If you are thinking about making the switch to hypoallergenic jewelry, Chloe + Isabel is the brand for you. Don’t continue to wear any pieces of jewelry that irritate your skin. Invest in high-quality, nickel-free jewelry that will make you feel more confident than ever.

The Power of Positive Self-Talk

power of positive self-talkThis is my first blog post in the inspiration section of The Inspiration Boutique and I could not be more excited to write it. I hope you all find this topic impactful in some way, because it is a topic that should be discussed more often. The topic I am going to discuss in this post is the topic of positive self-talk and I will give as much insight as I possibly can based on my own experiences.

Your Ego is Not Your Boss

There was a point in my life not too long ago where I became disconnected. Disconnected from my family, disconnected from my hobbies and interests, disconnected from friends, disconnected from my relationship at the time, and disconnected from myself. While I was away at college, I became isolated and pushed all feelings and emotions under the rug. I refused to feel anything, and I couldn’t understand why. I started to constantly beat myself about it too, which caused a snowball effect.

One negative thought led to another. If I told myself that I was dumb for procrastinating on a homework assignment, or that I was gonna fail out of college because I didn’t study for a media history test, it led to worse and worse thoughts. My ego was being a huge bitch.

If anyone does not know much about the ego have no fear, I don’t either. I just know that it is a funny thing. Read “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle and he will break that one down brilliantly for you. This is my shot at explaining it:

power of positive self-talkThe ego is fictional. It is an identity you yourself creates. We assemble it by taking all the beliefs we have of what we are such as our judgements about our talents, capabilities, and personality. When you take all those beliefs and bunch them together you develop the structure of your ego. When you make negative statements about yourself such as “I am not pretty” or “I suck at sports,” the ego will hide behind the “I” and “me” in those proclaimed thoughts.

The ego is deceitful and creates very powerful emotional reactions and then will point fingers at us for how it made us feel. Our ego is complex, but we are not our ego, and I think people have a hard time understanding that concept. I have to remind myself constantly that I am not who and what my ego is trying to convince me of.

That was my shot at trying to unravel the mystery of the ego. You could really talk about it for hours. This past year has been a year of self-revelations and one thing that I have learned is that my lowest point in my life was caused by the snowball effect of negative self-talk and my false ego. I managed to manifest only negativity and it got me absolutely nowhere, but I am so grateful I hit rock bottom because it led me to where I am now.

Start Practicing Positive Self-Talk Now

I know it is much easier said than done, but you really can start at least practicing positive self-talk right this very second. I know, I know, it sounds impossible. You’re ego is most likely already telling you “that is crazy you aren’t capable of doing that.” Just remember, the ego is not your boss. Although it can be quite the difficult task, and trust me I understand, it is possible. You have total and complete control over your mind. Here are some simple ways to start loving yourself and practicing positive self-talk right now:

  • power of positive self-talkStick post-it notes around your room or anywhere you want with positive affirmations such as “I am feeling great and ready to tackle today.”
  • Literally talk to yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you are awesome, because you are.
  • Although you may not be able to surround yourself with positive people all day because of certain obligations such as work or school, when you are done being around the people that don’t higher your vibratory levels, choose to be around the people that you know love you for everything that you are.
  • Before you lay your head down to sleep, only focus on the great things that happened during your day and your dreams will be sweeter.

power of positive self talkThese are a few ways I practice positive self-talk everyday. Like anything else, practice makes perfect, so positive self-talk is no exception. You must practice this act every day, and I promise it will get easier. There will be times where you may feel like it’s impossible, but hang in there! You have to start somewhere, right? Remember, love makes the world go round, and if you love yourself then you will be capable of loving others and that is the snowball effect you want to see.

Style Shortcuts for the Lazy Gal

style shortcuts for the lazy galOne thing that I have learned about myself over the years and have finally come to terms with is that sometimes I’m just flat out lazy and sluggish when it comes to my appearance. Minimal effort is the way I roll.

I am assuming most of you have heard a familiar saying that goes a little something like “I want to have my cake and eat it too.” Well, that one phrase sums up my struggle every morning of wanting to appear as though I belong on the cover of Elle Magazine but not wanting to lift a single finger in the process. Ok, maybe I’ll lift a finger or two but that is because I don’t have a personal stylist to help me out. I’m just not that rich…yet.

With all that being said, I thought I would help all you fellow lazy girls out by giving you some style shortcuts that don’t require you waking up at the asscrack of dawn but will leave you looking like you just left the set of a photo shoot.

Beanie Baby

style shortcuts for the lazy girlIf your hair is greasy because you didn’t have the energy to wash it the night before, throw on your favorite beanie and you’re good to go. This is one of my go-to looks when I am having a bad hair day. Some stores that sell cute beanies at decent prices are Forever 21, H&M, PacSun.

If you aren’t into the whole beanie look, here are some other tips to try when you’re hair isn’t making the cut:

  •  Slick your hair back in a ponytail and tease it a bit.
  •  Hairspray it and it will look like you just got your hair done at a salon.
  •  This look will show off your pretty face so don’t be shy! I am a big fan of the ponytail.

Tips for Quick Makeup Application

style shortcuts for the lazy galTo be honest, I am not a huge makeup wearer, but when it is necessary I will throw some on. Considering I have to wake up at 6 am every morning for work I have zero desire to put on makeup, but to avoid looking like a zombie, some makeup application is obligatory. Here is a list of some easy makeup application tips if you are a lazy gal like me:

  • If you have a favorite bronzer or blush, simply apply a little to your cheeks to bring back some color in your face.
  • If I do have some extra time to kill, I’ll put on some foundation, preferably powder foundation. It evens out your skin and makes it look nice and clean.
  • Curling your eyelashes can be a nice alternative to putting on mascara, or you can do both. I have short eyelashes so in that case curling your eyelashes can really make a difference.
  • If you’re feeling bold apply a pink or red lip. It takes 2 seconds and can really make you feel confident and ready to tackle the day.

These are just a few tips and tricks that you can try out if you are a working girl like me who just needs an easy way out sometimes when it comes to getting ready in the morning. It is cheating, but in the best way possible. If there is a simple way to look good then go with the simple way! If you have any other style tips for the lazy girl feel free to comment!